Every year, teams look forward to seeing how their teams unfold. How well do they work together? Do they stay loose on the bench? Is it fun in the locker room? Do they exhibit Little League affirmation on the field? And…who looks promising in terms of pitching, hitting, stealing bases, great defense? Are there stars that are apparent now, just a couple of weeks into the season?
As of this writing, I would point to Bryce Harper of the Washington Nationals for hitting. He has about 40 at-bats with 6 home runs and 12 runs batted in. He just keeps going. Giancarlo Stanton, Judge, Trout, Altuve would join the list. For pitching, that’s a mixed bag. Surely, any list would include Shohei Ohtani, often referred to as the Japanese Babe Ruth. That’s because he can pitch and hit. He is 2-0 for starts so far with a 2.06 ERA. He’s hitting in the Designated Hitter spot (currently the number 8 spot for the California Angels). He has 11 RBIs (ten of those coming with 2 outs already before he gets to the plate). Kershaw, Darvish, Scherzer, Kluber (the last two being the NL and AL Cy Young winners) would certainly top any list this early in the season.
It’s a long season. Anything can happen. Someone unexpected could pop into view and steal the show. Another one could get seriously injured and spend weeks on the DL. Yet others could lose confidence in their hitting or fielding and need to spend some time in the Minorsbefore returning. It’s easy for managers – and for people in the world of business – to “fall in love” with a player (or employee). That is, the initial story about that individual is one of promise, hope, ability. They are seen as “golden boys” (or girls) whose actions, words or ideas take on added shine simply due to their perceived greatness. There could be someone else not in the limelight who could do or even does do a better job, but they are ignored. The pressure on the “star” can be great but so too can it be difficult for the ignored talented one. It can also be shaming.
It’s difficult not to compare oneself to the “star.” Of course, any comparison often results in a “one up-one down” situation, with you being the one down. Framed that way, you are in a “less than” situation. You literally do not measure up, due to the comparison. Thus, a shaming situation. If you are not aware of your “shame triggers,” you might easily fall prey to feeling morose, sluggish, unmotivated. This in turn could affect your performance and productivity…putting you further away from the “golden child’s” standard. A perfect set-up for stinkin’ thinkin’! Without anyone explicitly saying so or acknowledging it, you could be in a
downward spiral which could affect your future in profound ways.
I suggest you take a piece of paper and put three columns across the top: Competent. Capable. Confident. Under each column, write examples of words, actual examples, or an affirmation you would give yourself in each category. For example: college degrees, even advanced degrees, in my field — clearly making you competent; past success (on x,y,z projects) – clearly making you capable; (specific names of…) people telling me how they loved your presentation (or similar activity) – from which you can glean confidence. Put sown as many examples as you can think of. Add to your list. Post it in a prominent place in your bedroom. Recite it upon waking and before turning off the lights at night. And become the person you already are in the eyes of God.