I wrote about “shame triggers,” recently (September 19th ). I had an experience earlier this week that provoked a common shame trigger for me: I was rejected. I had been in conversation with a board member of a prominent treatment facility in order to bring my particular approach to shame to patients, staff and families. …
The following comes from my book, “Swing for the Fences: Show up. Dig in. Suck less.” I’ve been thinking about how people give of themselves for the Commons, the sake of the whole. People’s selfless acts often go unnoticed. Moving a runner into scoring position with a perfectly- placed bunt or walking around a teething …
Remember: shame is a feeling we have that we are not quite good enough, that we don’t measure up, we can’t please so-and-so, we don’t deserve our accomplishments. Shame happens when we consciously or unconsciously put ourselves into a “one up/one down” position. We compare ourselves (on anything) to another person or situation, putting ourselves …
Two beliefs are frequently held in tension and have a claim on our behavior. In the political realm, there are people who look at our human condition and place a premium on the belief that “we’re all in it together.” That is, we have a responsibility to care for others and to consider how our …
